90-Minute Couples Therapy
Marriage in the middle of the trenches.
I work with parents of young children who love their kids and miss each other. I offer 90-minute couples sessions rather than the traditional 50 — enough time to settle, name what's actually happening between you, move through the harder feelings instead of around them, and leave with repair that holds until next time.
This work is for you if
- Every conversation is logistics — schedules, meals, who's on bedtime
- The same argument keeps coming back in different clothes
- One of you is touched out, the other feels shut out
- Intimacy has quietly disappeared and neither of you knows how to raise it
- Resentment is building over who carries what
- You love each other and want to protect this before it erodes
Why ninety minutes
Worth the childcare
Getting out of the house is its own project. Fifty minutes often ends just as the real conversation begins; ninety makes the sitter worth it.
Patterns, not incidents
We look underneath the argument at the cycle driving it — the protests, the withdrawals, and the attachment needs each of you is trying to protect.
Repair that lands
There is time to move through a hard moment together and finish somewhere different than you started, instead of packing it away for another month.
Making time for your marriage — and yourselves
Small rhythms that survive a toddler
Not elaborate date nights you'll cancel. Realistic, repeatable moments of connection that fit inside nap schedules and 6pm meltdowns.
Dividing the invisible load
Naming the mental work neither of you can see, so it stops turning into resentment at the end of the day.
Being a person again
Rest, friendship, and identity outside of parenting — because two depleted people cannot pour into each other.
Repair in front of your kids
Your children learn what love looks like by watching you rupture and come back together. That's teaching, not failing.
A deeper look at this work
Read more about why couples therapy for parents of young children matters, what changes in these years, and how 90-minute sessions fit a life with little ones.
Couples therapy for parents of young children →Getting started
A free 15-minute consultation, an extended intake to hear both of your stories, and a plan we build together. Faith can be part of the work if you'd like it to be. Telehealth and in-person options available.
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